I think that every thought we have about what we do not want in our life might possibly be based on a fear. There are only so many fears. I think that the feeling of fear could be memorized and then released.
I’m not talking about fear in a great vague sense. I am thinking about breaking fears into general categories based on feeling fear and matching that feeling of fear with the subject or subjects of your thoughts.
If you’re thinking a thought or series of thoughts about whatever subject it might be and you feel fear, AND you realize you were feeling fear, you can match that feeling with that subject and realize that you are feeling fear with your thoughts about it.
Whatever you are feeling fear about, there is a very good chance that you are not afraid of that subject and the feeling is a ‘left-over’ from a time in your past.
The conversation in the mind might be a bit thoughtful. “Yes, I feel this feeling of fear… but… I don’t think I’m actually AFRAID of it. I can’t deny that I have feelings about it though.
Yeah, I’m feeling the feeling but I’m not actually afraid. I think I’m going to let some of that go. That would suck if I felt like THAT every time I think about this subject for the rest of my life. Um.. No. I don’t think I need that feeling any more. I’m going to let that go.” And the feeling starts leaving.
When you realize you’re not afraid of the subject, the fear tends to release and no longer pops up.
Some categories of fear that are generally accepted are:
Criticism: Not good enough, being wrong, public speaking
Loss of love
Loss of freedom
I think that people feel fear a lot. And I think that the feeling happens, and a person reacts without realizing WHAT is happening. I think it happens a lot.
So, what I’m thinking is, what if a person put a little bit of time into really focusing on different categories of fear? What if a person focused on things that make them feel fear and become familiar with the feeling so that it can be released? (Even better when you realize you aren’t afraid, It’s just a feeling!)
It is tough to release it though, if you don’t recognize it for what it is.
I know, I know. That’s negative, watch out for the law of attraction, be careful what you think about, thoughts become things. Probably shouldn’t focus on things that make you feel fear. OPRAH won’t approve.
I’m not talking about becoming needlessly preoccupied focusing on things that you have felt fear about or focus on things you don’t want. No thanks!
I’m talking about setting aside a few minutes and focusing on it in a reasonable way and then get on with your life. Maybe 45 minutes to an hour a week and really focus on it. (Like a massage.)
Get familiar with what your mind is doing. (The feeling could be anything but right now I’m talking about fear.)
Becoming super focused on a feeling as important as fear is really worth investing some thought.
I don’t want to say that the feeling of fear controls people. (Even though it certainly can and sometimes does).
What if I call fear a Powerful Influencer?
An aspect of our personality that has this much POWER over our motivations and emotions really ought to be examined. Audited even. (with a sense of humor)
It is fun when you are you doing this with a person who can keep it light and easy while keeping you on track. On track meaning that you are able to focus on the very subject that most humans will do almost ANYTHING to avoid. FEAR.
Recognizing fear in everyday life and being completely comfortable with the feeling (because of the focus training sessions) really speeds up the process of realizing that you have less fear than before. Less fear than when you were younger. It’s relaxing…
This is possibly more fun if you are doing this with a friend or group of friends. There are book clubs, so I suppose there’s clubs where people do this kind of thing as well.
A person could do it with a therapist. Maybe not. I’m not sure if releasing fear is therapy.
Maybe life coaches do this kind of thing. Do life coaches do this kind of thing? I don’t know.
Probably the best person to work with on a project like this would be a hypnotist or a Neuro-Linguistic Programmer. A programmer can likely get you right where you want to go.
They will ask you what you want to do, and you will tell them. They will have you imagine/remember times when you’ve had that feeling or the things you usually are thinking about, until, you begin to feel it. And now the work is being done.
You probably won’t remember everything, (Is memory overrated?) You know you did something. Something important. And you are already starting to notice an expectation, a good feeling, confident even, like things are already starting to improve. Courage maybe
You’ve had an interesting experience, and you ARE starting… something’s different… feeling lighter. You find you have a little less fear in your life.
So, what was I talking about? I remember I was going to do… No. I was doing, did! I did something important. Something I feel really good about. Hmmmm.
Oh well, I’ll probably remember right after you finish re-reading this and come back for more.
P.S This was fun to write. Although no plug was intended when I wrote this, if you are in any way interested in Fear Removal for REAL, you will want to research Jerry Peterson at scars.com. I took a 3 day class with him several years ago and my life shifted instantly. The relief of fear was beyond anything I could have imagined. Amazing. It was like a spiritual experience.